Every year college students across the country make the same resolutions: I will get straight A’s. I will lose weight. I will save my refund check money for summer school instead of buying those shoes.
We make these declarations with good intentions and we even connect with the results of achieving these goals. But something happens. The perceived benefit of achievement doesn’t outweigh the perceived discomfort of change and so we opt to stay the same.
Three months into the semester we hear ourselves say “D is still passing” “I can just borrow books for the semester and spend this money on a VIP table in the club” “Freshman 15 is cool I mean thick is in”
We find ourselves in this position year in and year out?
My guess is a little thing called complacency. Yes, complacency. The drift from contentment into complacency suddenly has us okay with just graduating… eventually; with just getting a job anywhere after college; with just paying back our student loans over the course of our lifetime.
All of those New Year’s resolutions and goals fall prey to complacency.
As a woman said in an overheard plane conversation “bite me once shame on them, bite me twice shame on them again…but 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8 times…you gotta be tired” and to make matters worse we’re biting ourselves. We ought to be tired of complacency enough to change.
In 2013 we must resolve to:
1. Be flexible. There are several ways to get to the same goal. Don’t quit. In fact declare that quitting is not an option. If one way doesn’t work, try another. If that way does not work, try another way. Repeat until you find a way to achieve your goal.
2. Stay ready. Opportunities don’t wait for us to prepare for them. Opportunities come to the prepared. After knocking out an unprepared opponent the great Floyd “Money” Mayweather once said “you have to stay ready so that you don’t have to get ready.” So stay ready.
3. Be hopeful. Hope is a “feeling of expectation and desire for a certain thing to happen.”We all have the potential for greatness within us. We should work towards the unveiling of that greatness at all times with hopeful expectation.
2013 is a new year and a new opportunity to do a new thing. It’s time for a public and permanent break up with complacency. Complacency has never been good to us and we deserve to get rid of it for a better mate; dedication, success, and consistency seem like far better options.
Happy New Year! Live HOPE. Give HOPE.
Director of Partnerships
The H.O.P.E. Scholarship